Updates!

Since we last spoke, a few things have changed in my life. Nothing drastic! However, I do think I should update you!

• I decided to move to Woodbridge! Although things aren't set in stone as yet, I'm 90% sure it's going to happen! :) I'm dreading the traffic!
• I plan on purchasing a vehicle by November 1st! Me thinks it can happen! Time to save! :)
• I'm now with AT&T! I won't even get into the whole Sprint drama!
• I haven't spoken to (who I thought was) a good friend of mine in a couple of months! We spoke EVERY DAY! Three to four times a day! Now he just kinda disappeared on me! :( I'm sad! We've been friends since my freshman year of college! He also read my blog! Hopefully he'll read this and see that he's missed!
• I went to Vegas! Pictures will be posted shortly! :) What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas! So nothing to talk about there!
• I got a new laptop, digital camera & printer! Woot Woot! :)
• I have a new LOVE for twitter! I know, I know! I would add the twitter gadget to my page, but that means I'll have to make my posts unprotected, which I just won't do! I say some reckless stuff @ times! I don't want the sweet girl image you have of me to be tainted!

I guess that's really it! I'll do my best to keep you posted! :)

Network!

When I first moved to the DMV, one of the first advice I received was to network as much as possible. We've all heard it before...."It's not about what you know, but who you know."

Last week, I attended the Young Hospitality Industry Professionals (YHIP) happy hour at the Helix hotel with few of my colleagues! (Side note: I love that spot!) The crowd was predominately white; mid-twenties to early-forties.

While sipping on my cosmo, I decided to "people watch" as I like to call it! While checking out the crowd, I noticed that the majority of people were walking around meeting new people. You can tell it was a new connection because of the introduction. I noticed a lot of business cards were being passed around. So after about my third cosmo, I decided to head over to my next destination...The Park @ 14th! Soon after I arrived, I decided to continue people watching. For those that have yet to go to The Park on a Thursday evening, the crowd is predominately black. Most are in their mid-twenties to early-forties.

Whilst checking out the crowd, I noticed a difference in the atmosphere. There really wasn't any networking going on. It was mostly men standing around drinking w/their colleagues/friends/etc. while checking out the women walking around. Okay, you can say this wasn't a networking event, however, happy hours have always been an unofficial networking event. Instead, it was more like a "hook up" spot!

I know there are a lot of differences between blacks and whites, but I thought most happy hours were pretty standard! You drink, meet new people, make new connections...etc., etc., etc. Well, I guess you can call meeting a new dude @ the park a new connection, but what can he do for me professionally? At the YHIP event, I met the manager of the hotel who kinda gave me that sweet deal - I won't say since nothing is written in stone as yet. But the point is, a business connection was made.

Right now, I don't even know if I have a conclusion to this blog. I'll just end it by asking...What gives?

*Please excuse the poor grammar. I have a slight headache and I'm unable to think straight. I wanted to get this out before I lost my train of thought! :)

Michael Jackson - In the Closet

Definitely one of the sexiest videos created! Gotta love Mike! He was definitely kinda sexy in this one! And damn you Naomi for looking OH SO FABULOUS!

R.I.P. Michael Jackson

RIP Michael Jackson

When I hear about a celebrity passing, rarely do I get caught up in the moment. People die every day! That's what I've always said. This time, it's a little different. I actually got really emotional listening to some of his songs... watching the tributes! What an amazing artist!!

Growing up in the Caribbean, Michael was pretty much all that most of us knew at one point in time! I remember staying up to see the debut for Remember the Time! DO I?! That video was THE BOMB! Michael, you will be missed!

Miguel - Be My Vixen

I somehow stumbled upon this song earlier. I'm really feeling it. The guy has a fairly nice voice! Thought I'd share. Obviously, this is not the video, but that's all I could find! :)

My dream

So I dreamt that I was in a flood last night. Here's what the dream dictionary said:

To dream that you are in a flood, represents your need to release some sexual desires. If the flood is raging, then it represents emotional issues and tension. Your repressed emotions are overwhelming you. Consider where the flood is for clues as to where in your waking life is causing you stress and tension. Alternatively, the dream may indicate that you are the one who is overwhelming others with your demands and strong opinion.

Hmmm, no comment...

Next!

We, as humans, love to be satisfied. Whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. We love knowing that we've "accomplished" something. Enough with the sugarcoating, I'm referring to S.E.X! Please excuse me while this conversation gets a little rated R.

It has been a while since I've been in a semi-serious relationship! I find it hard to be "satisfied." And when you find someone that truly satisfies you sexually, you always find some fault in them. So of course, you guys are no longer dating, and you're left high and dry (no pun intended). So on those nights where you are looking to be satisfied, you are left thinking..."Should I call him up? I mean the sex is GREAT, but he's just not what I'm looking for." So you have sex with him, and you're left regretting it the next day. You know exactly why you guys ended things in the first place, so why did you go back?

I was speaking to a friend earlier today, he informed me that men, never ever break up with a woman. A man, for the most part, will give up the goods to a former fling! It's almost guaranteed! A woman on the other hand, we think too much about things!

But you have to think, would you rather enjoy the casual sex of an old fling or "hope" that a new one is good? And let's say the new one is bad! (SCREAMING!!!) What a waste of a fcuk! I'm not sure about the rest of you, but it's really hard to go back to bad sex. Of course many of you may say that you can always tell them what they're doing wrong, etc., etc., etc. Let's keep it real here, most of the time, it's something that you just can't change! A lot of men have already developed a technique. Asking him to do something else, you're pretty much f*cking up his ego!

Sex is so damn complicated! Why can't everyone just be equally as good? Is that too much to ask? Maybe it is!

She Let Go

This is where I'm at right now!

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the 'right' reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn't ask anyone for advice. She didn't read a book on how to let go... She didn't search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn't promise to let go. She didn't journal about it. She didn't write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn't check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn't analyze whether she should let go. She didn't call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn't do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn't call the prayer line. She didn't utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn't good and it wasn't bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

- Ernest Holmes

Finances

I honestly could care less what a guy is making! I'm a lot of things, but gold digger - I am not! My only issue when it comes to money and men, happens to be when a guy continually talks about how "broke" he is! We all go through the ups and downs when it comes to finances - Understandable! However, it's a huge turnoff for MOST women, when a guy claims to be broke a lot. I don't want to know your money issues! I mean, seriously! We're not married, your finances does not affect me in any sort of way right now! Financial issues is something we all have to face sometime or another. The economy is not looking the great right now, so I'm definitely not expecting people to be in the best of shape when it comes to finances. However, if you're employed...I just don't need to hear about it! When times are hard for me, I don't go around letting people know. That's my business! No one likes hanging out with the person that never has money.

So men, it's ok to be broke...it's just not ok to say you're broke...all the time!

Where are they now?

I find myself sitting here thinking about some artists from the 80's, 90's and even in the new millenium that have appeared to have fallen off the face of this earth. So I ask, where are they now?

Prime example - TQ. He came out back in the 90's with one of my favorite songs "Westside." I really wish I was from Cali after hearing that song! Oh yea, what happened to Rome? Uh, Ideal? Cocoa Brown (although I really didn't see them having much of a "career")? I mean, what's really good? I'm just sad that a lot of good artists just seem to have left the music scene all together. I'm sure a lot of them are probably doing some behind the scenes work, but I would LOVE it if they would just come out...for once...for me! :) Come out, come out...wherever you are! :)

My Sorority Life

So I found something that I actually enjoy doing, and there is no one out there that's going to make me feel bad about doing it! I'm addicted to an application on facebook called Sorority Life! It's definitely one of the most popular applications on facbeook right now! I do believe there is an application on Myspace as well.

In a nutshell, you earn money and Brownie points by defeating another person (house). You get to dress up in these FABULOUS outfits (as you can see on the right - my girl is rocking a very HOT bathing suit!) I paid 19 brownie points for her! Trust me, it's not that easy to get up to 19 points, unless of course you choose to complete one of the offers. By offers I mean, submitting your e-mail/credit card/etc. to SPAM! You can also gain brownie points by going to the next level (one point per level) and major achievements! I absolutely love this game! If you're a woman (i'm sure men can join to, but it just seem weird when a guy is known as a sister) please join! It's super fun! It's super fun and super addictive!

I hope everyone enjoyed their extended weekend! I know I did! I must say, it didn't go by that fast! I guess I'll get my things together for work tomorrow!

Have a wonderful evening and hope you enjoy the rest of your week!

Well, Cosmo Said It!

A friend of mine posted a comment from Cosmo. To summarize - if a man calls you between the hours of 12:00 pm - 5:00 pm, he's definitely interested in you. That does make sense for the most part! I mean, assuming he has a 9-5 type of job, then I would definitely feel good knowing that he was thinking about me while he was at work. But we all know it's not THAT simple! If that was the case, we wouldn't have so many books out there telling women what they need to do in order to find Mr. Right! There wouldn't be so many dating shows out there! Honestly, if it was really THAT simple, I believe the world would be a better place. I do not claim to know much about men, because if I did, I think I wouldn't be writing this right now! I would be in bed with my guy right now watching a movie or something, but I'm not!

So back to this comment from Cosmo - So of course, I'm playing the devil's advocate. Just because a guy calls you between those hours does not mean that he's interested in you. I can look at it like he's just making plans for the night! I would hate for women out there to have false hopes! It's very likely that you can still be considered a booty call if he chooses to call you during those hours. This whole comment led me to think about some of my past relationships. Although the majority of men that I had some type of long term connection with, for the most part, we spoke during the day.

So I will say there might be some truth to this article, however, that can not be the case for everyone. I wonder what type of guys give their "expert opinions" to Cosmo? Are they happily married men? Attractive single men who some may consider "players?" Who are these men?

I'm not even going to lose sleep over this! If a man wants you, he will find his own unique way to show it.

I hope everyone is having a FABULOUS Memorials Day Weekend!

Just don't ask!

By now, many of you may be very much aware that I get annoyed by very minor things! I guess it could be the Capricorn in me!

But many of you will agree with me on this one! I get really, really annoyed when someone goes out of their way to make plans with me, and when that time comes, no call/no show! Don't people get fired for that? I mean really! I basically accepted your invitation, cleared out MY VERY IMPORTANT SCHEDULE and now, you're basically going to flake on me? The nerve!

Summer Travel Plans

I really need to get out more! So far, I have two trips planned (meaning tickets have been purchased) - Atlantic City @ the end of the month and Las Vegas mid-July! I was hoping to get a trip to Jamaica in there, somehow. But I need to get some other folks to join in! I would also like to take a trip to VA Beach. Maybe for the 4th of July weekend! That sounds pretty cool!

I'm definitely thinking about going down to ATL... Let's see if I'm still an invited guest! :)

Suggestions are welcome!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Today's meal - Meatloaf! - Yummy! (I hope)

Article of the Day: His Idea of Girlfriend Material

If you’re used to hearing the line “I’m just not ready for a relationship,” then please, keep reading. One important thing to bear in mind: Guys decide early on whether they’re willing to forgo their freedom to become monogamous with you. To prove to him it’s a sacrifice that he’ll actually want to make, be sure that you...

Pick Up the Check
Relax, we’re not saying you have to pony up for every meal. But if you reach for the bill, he’ll know you’re a self-sufficient chick who’s not just looking for a free ride. “If a girl looks away or suddenly gets distracted when the check comes, I feel taken advantage of,” says Sammy,* 25. “When a woman insists on picking up the occasional tab though, it shows she’s interested in me as a person, not in what I can give her.”

Have Friday-Night Plans
Sure, you want to see him, and he appreciates that. But when you bombard him with a steady stream of e-mails and text messages asking if he wants to do something this weekend, it’s suffocating. What he needs to move forward with you is reassurance that you have your own life — one that doesn’t revolve around him. “My girlfriend was the first woman I’d ever dated who repeatedly told me ‘Already booked’ because she had all this other stuff going on,” says Amir, 29. “Soon, though, I realized that if I wanted to see her, I’d have to make plans in advance. That made me want her even more!”

Love His Guy Stuff
“My idea of long-term material is someone who will give me a high five when I’ve had a great day on the golf course or night at the poker table and who will laugh with me when I tell her about all the stupid stuff my friends did at our bar crawl,” says Carlo, 31. Yes, it’s asking a lot (we don’t expect you to embrace our strip-joint jaunts), but guys don’t want a girlfriend who’s going to bitch and moan about our manly activities or the company we keep.

Unleash Your Lust
When a guy looks ahead to his future with a girl, he wants to imagine crazy nights of wake-the-neighbors sex. So if you’re already an eager little bed devil to begin with, he knows he has a lot to look forward to in a relationship. “I dated this girl briefly who was great in every way, but when it came to sex, she was really inhibited. Instead of enjoying sex, it always seemed like she was doing me some kind of favor,” says Lucas, 29. “I knew it would just get worse as time went on, so I decided that I had to break it off.”

Patron

Patron is the Devil...

That is all

And America's Next Top Model is....

Teyona Anderson


I'm happy! Go TEYONA! Thanks goodness it wasn't Allison! Ugh!

Night, Night!

Bye Aminat!

So, Aminat was sent home! :(
I hope Teyona can win!
If she doesn't, then I'm so through!

Dear eHarmony...

Dear eHarmony,

According to my records, my membership ends today (May 13, 2009 @ 11:59 pm). I do not wish to extend my membership because I honestly dont' think that your service is worth it. I have yet to find a guy on your site that I "clicked" with. I've been on your site for 6 months! I can't blame you entirely, but I will blame your false advertisement.

If I was unmatchable, I really wish you would've told me that from the get go! That way I would've saved my money! I may be picky, but I mean COME ON! I'm sure eHarmony works for some people, but it just didn't quite work for me. In the meantime and in between time, I will take my chance going to coffee shops, lounges, etc. to find my soul mate. I'm ending my experiment with online dating!

If I choose to go back to online dating, I will not use your services. Although "guided communication" may work for some people, it was very annoying going through five (5) different steps before I was able to exchange random e-mails with someone. Sometimes, it will take more than 2 weeks to get to the "Final stage." You have to understand, the majority of people on your site actually have a JOB. The only time most of us can communicate would be in the evening after a very long day at work.

Eventhough my letter may seem negative, I do wish your site much luck during these hard times!

Sincerely,

Former eHarmonite!

Twitter is gone!

I just didn't need it in my life! Facebook, Myspace & my blog is enough! And to be quite honest with you, I did not understand the big HYPE about it! Ah well... can't say it was good while it lasted because it really wasn't!

Goodbye Twitter!