Updates!

Since we last spoke, a few things have changed in my life. Nothing drastic! However, I do think I should update you!

• I decided to move to Woodbridge! Although things aren't set in stone as yet, I'm 90% sure it's going to happen! :) I'm dreading the traffic!
• I plan on purchasing a vehicle by November 1st! Me thinks it can happen! Time to save! :)
• I'm now with AT&T! I won't even get into the whole Sprint drama!
• I haven't spoken to (who I thought was) a good friend of mine in a couple of months! We spoke EVERY DAY! Three to four times a day! Now he just kinda disappeared on me! :( I'm sad! We've been friends since my freshman year of college! He also read my blog! Hopefully he'll read this and see that he's missed!
• I went to Vegas! Pictures will be posted shortly! :) What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas! So nothing to talk about there!
• I got a new laptop, digital camera & printer! Woot Woot! :)
• I have a new LOVE for twitter! I know, I know! I would add the twitter gadget to my page, but that means I'll have to make my posts unprotected, which I just won't do! I say some reckless stuff @ times! I don't want the sweet girl image you have of me to be tainted!

I guess that's really it! I'll do my best to keep you posted! :)

Network!

When I first moved to the DMV, one of the first advice I received was to network as much as possible. We've all heard it before...."It's not about what you know, but who you know."

Last week, I attended the Young Hospitality Industry Professionals (YHIP) happy hour at the Helix hotel with few of my colleagues! (Side note: I love that spot!) The crowd was predominately white; mid-twenties to early-forties.

While sipping on my cosmo, I decided to "people watch" as I like to call it! While checking out the crowd, I noticed that the majority of people were walking around meeting new people. You can tell it was a new connection because of the introduction. I noticed a lot of business cards were being passed around. So after about my third cosmo, I decided to head over to my next destination...The Park @ 14th! Soon after I arrived, I decided to continue people watching. For those that have yet to go to The Park on a Thursday evening, the crowd is predominately black. Most are in their mid-twenties to early-forties.

Whilst checking out the crowd, I noticed a difference in the atmosphere. There really wasn't any networking going on. It was mostly men standing around drinking w/their colleagues/friends/etc. while checking out the women walking around. Okay, you can say this wasn't a networking event, however, happy hours have always been an unofficial networking event. Instead, it was more like a "hook up" spot!

I know there are a lot of differences between blacks and whites, but I thought most happy hours were pretty standard! You drink, meet new people, make new connections...etc., etc., etc. Well, I guess you can call meeting a new dude @ the park a new connection, but what can he do for me professionally? At the YHIP event, I met the manager of the hotel who kinda gave me that sweet deal - I won't say since nothing is written in stone as yet. But the point is, a business connection was made.

Right now, I don't even know if I have a conclusion to this blog. I'll just end it by asking...What gives?

*Please excuse the poor grammar. I have a slight headache and I'm unable to think straight. I wanted to get this out before I lost my train of thought! :)

Michael Jackson - In the Closet

Definitely one of the sexiest videos created! Gotta love Mike! He was definitely kinda sexy in this one! And damn you Naomi for looking OH SO FABULOUS!

R.I.P. Michael Jackson

RIP Michael Jackson

When I hear about a celebrity passing, rarely do I get caught up in the moment. People die every day! That's what I've always said. This time, it's a little different. I actually got really emotional listening to some of his songs... watching the tributes! What an amazing artist!!

Growing up in the Caribbean, Michael was pretty much all that most of us knew at one point in time! I remember staying up to see the debut for Remember the Time! DO I?! That video was THE BOMB! Michael, you will be missed!

Miguel - Be My Vixen

I somehow stumbled upon this song earlier. I'm really feeling it. The guy has a fairly nice voice! Thought I'd share. Obviously, this is not the video, but that's all I could find! :)

My dream

So I dreamt that I was in a flood last night. Here's what the dream dictionary said:

To dream that you are in a flood, represents your need to release some sexual desires. If the flood is raging, then it represents emotional issues and tension. Your repressed emotions are overwhelming you. Consider where the flood is for clues as to where in your waking life is causing you stress and tension. Alternatively, the dream may indicate that you are the one who is overwhelming others with your demands and strong opinion.

Hmmm, no comment...

Next!

We, as humans, love to be satisfied. Whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. We love knowing that we've "accomplished" something. Enough with the sugarcoating, I'm referring to S.E.X! Please excuse me while this conversation gets a little rated R.

It has been a while since I've been in a semi-serious relationship! I find it hard to be "satisfied." And when you find someone that truly satisfies you sexually, you always find some fault in them. So of course, you guys are no longer dating, and you're left high and dry (no pun intended). So on those nights where you are looking to be satisfied, you are left thinking..."Should I call him up? I mean the sex is GREAT, but he's just not what I'm looking for." So you have sex with him, and you're left regretting it the next day. You know exactly why you guys ended things in the first place, so why did you go back?

I was speaking to a friend earlier today, he informed me that men, never ever break up with a woman. A man, for the most part, will give up the goods to a former fling! It's almost guaranteed! A woman on the other hand, we think too much about things!

But you have to think, would you rather enjoy the casual sex of an old fling or "hope" that a new one is good? And let's say the new one is bad! (SCREAMING!!!) What a waste of a fcuk! I'm not sure about the rest of you, but it's really hard to go back to bad sex. Of course many of you may say that you can always tell them what they're doing wrong, etc., etc., etc. Let's keep it real here, most of the time, it's something that you just can't change! A lot of men have already developed a technique. Asking him to do something else, you're pretty much f*cking up his ego!

Sex is so damn complicated! Why can't everyone just be equally as good? Is that too much to ask? Maybe it is!

She Let Go

This is where I'm at right now!

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the 'right' reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn't ask anyone for advice. She didn't read a book on how to let go... She didn't search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn't promise to let go. She didn't journal about it. She didn't write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn't check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn't analyze whether she should let go. She didn't call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn't do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn't call the prayer line. She didn't utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn't good and it wasn't bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.

- Ernest Holmes

Finances

I honestly could care less what a guy is making! I'm a lot of things, but gold digger - I am not! My only issue when it comes to money and men, happens to be when a guy continually talks about how "broke" he is! We all go through the ups and downs when it comes to finances - Understandable! However, it's a huge turnoff for MOST women, when a guy claims to be broke a lot. I don't want to know your money issues! I mean, seriously! We're not married, your finances does not affect me in any sort of way right now! Financial issues is something we all have to face sometime or another. The economy is not looking the great right now, so I'm definitely not expecting people to be in the best of shape when it comes to finances. However, if you're employed...I just don't need to hear about it! When times are hard for me, I don't go around letting people know. That's my business! No one likes hanging out with the person that never has money.

So men, it's ok to be broke...it's just not ok to say you're broke...all the time!

Where are they now?

I find myself sitting here thinking about some artists from the 80's, 90's and even in the new millenium that have appeared to have fallen off the face of this earth. So I ask, where are they now?

Prime example - TQ. He came out back in the 90's with one of my favorite songs "Westside." I really wish I was from Cali after hearing that song! Oh yea, what happened to Rome? Uh, Ideal? Cocoa Brown (although I really didn't see them having much of a "career")? I mean, what's really good? I'm just sad that a lot of good artists just seem to have left the music scene all together. I'm sure a lot of them are probably doing some behind the scenes work, but I would LOVE it if they would just come out...for once...for me! :) Come out, come out...wherever you are! :)